I no longer know the answer to this question, even though I suspect the answer is "yes" and there's nothing I can do about it.
But I do know this: There are a lot of very angry "people of color" in the United States, and their anger is directed at me by virtue of my skin color (and of course the immense privilege I enjoy being white).
I suppose I first found my racial consciousness when I was in grade school, when busing became official policy. Overnight, our predominantly white school was busing black kids in. Some nasty attitudes accompanied all this, but it was really a pretty smooth process (from where I sat -- of course, I'm sure my white privilege blinded me to the reality of how I was oppressing those around me).
We moved frequently, from small city to large-ish town, throughout South Carolina and North Carolina. I was always the new kid, the one with the twisted-up face (dog attack at age 5, much surgery followed), so I got picked on. That's pretty normal. I also was assaulted twice by gangs of black kids who were angry about a lot of things that I thought had nothing to do with me. Made it to the ER once. Of course, the black kids in both cases were reported by ... a black kid who was my friend already in each case. They were both later identified and beaten up, too. "Stop snitching," right? (Nothing new about that.)
My parents were firm in teaching me that racism was evil, that it had done inestimable damage to our cities and towns, and that much had to be done to correct it. They would not permit me, even for a second, to direct my own anger at having been attacked toward my attackers. I accepted this then, instead blaming myself for being a representation of what made these kids so angry. It was a rough time to be in some parts of the South (and the North, for that matter).
My education in matters racial continued through the years, and certainly the TV miniseries
Roots was a pivotal event. It drove me to the book, which I read and wept over. I read more about slavery and its evils, and became increasingly depressed over it all, deeply saddened at such abject human misery that my forebears had, at least, some part in supporting if only tacitly. No abolitionists that I'm aware of in my family tree.
Now, don't get me wrong here. I don't find anything the least bit commendable in any of my attitudes or beliefs. If anything, there's all the more reason to hate me. I'm white, after all. Guilt piled up. Hatred of myself (over racial matters primarily, but others as well) simply grew. I had a hard time believing anyone could even object to my hating myself, save for dyed-in-the-wool racists, and I didn't care what they thought. So much death and misery made me want to die, frankly. Suicide attempts followed, two of which in 1986 landed me in the hospital.
Over time, however, I grew resentful of my self-hatred. Why did I hate myself for simply being who and what I am? It made less sense, the longer I thought about it. Yes, non-white people may hate me, even though a few may put up with me; but that doesn't mean I have to join the party. Slowly, the whole burden of guilt over being white began to lift.
Now I'm beginning to realize that this, far from being a kind of liberation, is itself a form of racism -- at least in the eyes of some (maybe many?) people. I have come to realize, slowly, that not everything about being descended from Europeans is overwhelmingly evil and depraved. Some of it, at least, is actually quite good.
So, am I a racist? Let me say that none of my *best* friends -- those I'm closest to -- are of another race. Some of my friends are, but we all know that racists always say, "Some of my [best] friends are [insert minority name here]." I live in a very diverse condo/apartment complex, one that just kind of happened that way; I don't love it because it's diverse. I love it because many of the people there, regardless of racial heritage, are great folks and great neighbors. We genuinely seem to get along. (Or am I failing to see past my privileged white blinders again? I never know. Perhaps the default is to assume that people who aren't white hate me, and my white blindness prevents me from seeing that?)
Throughout each day, I encounter people of many different races and cultural backgrounds. I genuinely enjoy this, just the quick exchanges of pleasantries, just the bustle of commerce in relatively peaceful establishments. ("Relative" here to the rest of the world, I mean, which is in continual strife.) Black and Hispanic people are often kind to me, not for any reason other than that these particular folks are kind people. I try to encourage that in them (and me) by being engaged in kindness and understanding, by caring about how busy other people are, that sometimes they're having bad days and it's nothing personal, etc.
But it's not enough. Ultimately, it means zero.
I have become aware, long before Pres. Obama emerged first as a prominent (then dominant) candidate, then as our chief executive, that racial relations in the United States never really change. It's the same dance: whites feeling guilty or resentful (or both), blacks feeling oppressed and resented. It does not change. It will not change. If anything, it's gotten worse. That's not Pres. Obama's fault, by any stretch; expecting him to usher in a post-racial society was simply nuts, of course. The man's got a full plate, and then some. He's in over his head, simply because anybody would be, no matter how smart. There is no harder job than his.
But the recent arrest of Harvard Prof. H.L. Gates, Jr., illustrates -- regardless of your opinion of who's right in this -- that the old narrative has not changed, and will not change. It's clear to me that no white police officer should ever respond to a call involving black people without black officers present. While this will make little difference, it will at least provide some cover to the white officer while ensuring that he or she toes the line on appropriate behavior. (I'm all in favor of black officers policing blacks primarily, simply because there is a lot of ugly history in black encounters with white police officers -- for that matter, with whites, period.) Do I feel awful about the facts of our nation's racial history? Of course. You'd have to be inhuman not to. This nation was born in a bloodbath, and it has continued apace ever since, whether for racial reasons or not. That will not change, either.
So, I no longer hate myself as a rule, even though I lapse into it from time to time (for various reasons, and being white is part of it, admittedly). Right now, I admit, I'm feeling it with a mild intensity, so to speak. I look forward to death as it will, I do fervently hope, remove me from this wound in our nation that will never, ever heal. I am guilty, and I suppose to the extent I try to assuage my guilt by ignoring it, I am a racist.
I believe that all I have done wrong, and been privileged to by the evil others have done, will be forgiven because Jesus paid even for that on the cross -- not because I am worthy of anything other than condemnation, punishment, and eternal torture, but because and only because He is. I am nothing, and less than nothing. He is everything. I repeat this, as John the Baptist did: "I must decrease, and He must increase."
I am filled, however, with regret and guilt. And there is no relief. None. This world is an absolutely evil, fallen place, and it is that way in part because of me -- white, male me. No getting around that.
So, hate away. I am, I guess, a racist for all the reasons outlined above. I deserve your hatred. Right now, I'll join you! Have at it.
I hope that soon, we'll all get what we want: I want to be gone, erased, utterly annihilated, and completely forgotten. I wish I'd never been here, not even for one breath, in the first place.